My boyfriend and I are both virgins

Question: My boyfriend and I are both virgins. We would like to have sex, but he seems to get highly aroused during foreplay and always comes before we manage actual penetration. Is this down to inexperience? Or is a medical problem to blame? Should he see a doctor or should we persevere?

Answer:Your boyfriend could be suffering from premature ejaculation caused by a lack of awareness of the point of no return in his arousal. He is not alone and the problem affects men who are virgins and those who have been sexually active for a number of years. Your boyfriend’s ejaculation is uncontrolled, but the good news is that there are several techniques he can use on his own or that the two of you could try together in order to help him identify when stimulation should stop in order halt orgasm, and eventually enjoy penetration. The start-stop technique To begin your boyfriend is encouraged to masturbate alone. He should masturbate almost to the point of ejaculation and then stop. And he should do this three times. On the fourth time, he can allow himself to finish. Once your boyfriend has mastered the technique you should try it together during foreplay – perhaps through manual or oral sex. By working on the technique, with your help, your boyfriend will eventually be able to enjoy intercourse.